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Now, in his inspiring and hilarious new book, John offers readers a father-son memoir like no other. By turns tender, suspenseful, and laugh-out-loud funny, this is more than just the story of an unapologetically eccentric dad raising his equally eccentric son. It's the story of a father and son who grow up together.

Misfit, truant, delinquent. John was never a model child, and he wasn't a model dad either. With the delightfully skewed perspective that goes along with his Asperger's, he approached fatherhood as a series of logic puzzles and practical jokes. When his son, Cubby (aka Jack) asked, “Where did I come from?” John said he'd bought him at the Kid Store and that the salesman had cheated him by promising Cubby would “do all chores.” He ditched traditional bedtime stories like Good Night Moon in favor of his own stories about nuclear-powered horses and Santa's origins as a whaling captain. Still, John got the basics right (he made sure Cubby never drank diesel fuel at the automobile repair shop he owns), and he gave him a life of adventure: by the time Cubby was ten, he'd steered a Coast Guard cutter, driven a freight locomotive, and run an antique Rolls-Royce into a fence.

The one thing John couldn't figure out was what to do when school authorities decided that Cubby was dumb and stubborn—the very same thing he had been told as a child. Did Cubby have Asperger's too? The answer was unclear. One thing was clear, though: by the time he turned seventeen, Cubby had become a brilliant chemist—smart enough to make military-grade explosives and bring state and federal agents calling.

On-sale March 12, 2013, just in time for April's National Autism Awareness Month, RAISING CUBBY is an unforgettable chronicle about a different boy being raised by a different kind of father—and about coming to terms with being “on the spectrum” as both a challenge and a unique gift.

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BOOKLIST : How does a man who lacks a sense of empathy and an ability to read nonverbal cues learn to be a father? And how does a man with Asperger’s learn to recognize the same symptoms in his own child? (A key element in the book is Robison’s son’s own diagnosis, and Robison’s reaction to his having missed seeing the signs for as long as he had.) In many ways, this is a traditional father-and-son memoir, but the added element of Asperger’s gives the story a stronger emotional core: when Robison and his wife separated, for example, he realized he had been misreading a lot of what had been going on between them. It’s a story of a man learning to be a parent, yes, but it’s also—and perhaps more importantly—the story of a man discovering, as an adult, who he really is.

KIRKUS REVIEWS : Funny and moving… A warmhearted, appealing account by a masterful storyteller.

PUBLISHERS WEEKLY : Robison’s third book starts with a bang—his description of the ‘malicious explosion’ created by his teenage Cubby that has the boy, who has Asperger’s syndrome, looking at 60 years in prison, is as disconcerting as it is captivating… With the ensuing investigation and trial, Cubby and the author are drawn into a crazy world that threatens to tear apart their already delicate lives.


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ThAutcast.com : One of the problems with being me is that it's very easy to become overwhelmed. For example, by meeting John Elder Robison.

I got to meet John Elder when he was in San Francisco on his tour for his book Be Different. It was overwhelming for lots of reason. Partly because his family has been such an intense special interest for me. Partly because I admire him so much. Partly because he was so kind and gracious, to me and to everyone there. Read more…

PLoSBLOGS : John Elder Robison would stand out in a crowd even if he didn’t have Asperger syndrome. A gruff, powerfully built, tirelessly curious, blue-eyed bear of a man, he hurtles down a San Diego sidewalk toward a promising Mexican restaurant like an unstoppable force of nature. ”What’s keepin’ you stragglers?” he calls back to the shorter-legged ambulators dawdling in his wake. Read more…

BOOKLIST : Advanced Review – Issue: March 1, 2011
Asperger’s syndrome inhabits a particular niche with regard to treatment because it is characterized by symptomology that can be difficult to pinpoint, even in the somewhat less-than-exact art of psychological diagnosis. Read more…
(The trainwreck-in-progress that is the DSM‑5 — the next edition of the diagnosis bible—is rumored to fold Asperger’s into a larger Autism Spectrum category.) Robison—“Aspergian” author of the well-received memoir Look Me in the Eye (2007)—does the Asperger’s community a service in this eclectic book of essays on his experiences navigating social mores. He reflects on the bittersweet insights he’s gained about his own life—having lived for years with Asperger’s before the syndrome had been identified—and provides incredibly helpful advice to families learning to live with these challenges.

Robison’s clear writing provides substantial insight into the mind of someone whose disorder makes clarity very, very difficult. While it’s important to recognize that this is the account of one person with Asperger’s, and as such isn’t about “everyone with Asperger’s,” it is a valuable read nonetheless.
— Matthew Tiffany

KIRKUS REVIEWS : Aspergian Robison (Look Me In The Eye: My Life with Asperger’s, 2007) offers down-to-earth life advice for his “Aspie” peers and their friends, families and teachers. The author grew up never fully understanding why he, an intelligent, capable man, could never quite fit in. It was only when he was diagnosed with Asperger’s at age 40 that he realized his quirkiness arose from having been born with a mind that made connections in ways different from what he calls “nypicals” —people with neurotypical or “normal” brains. Read more…
Unlike so many other Apergians who end up alienated, alone and unemployed, Robison gradually found ways to overcome his social and communication deficits and transform his differences—such as superior concentration, abstract reasoning and mechanical skills—into gifts. Beginning with a chapter that gives a human face—his own—to the “restricted and repetitive patterns of behavior” associated with Asperger’s, Robison proceeds with a discussion of the thornier interpersonal issues Aspergians face. Compensation for all or most of these challenges is possible, argues the author, by combining the Aspergian strength of logical analysis with observation, an awareness of past experiences and practice. Learning to live in a “nypical” world was not easy for the author—“[i]t’s been a lifetime job for me”—but the rewards have made his efforts undeniably worthwhile.

Recommended reading for anyone seeking to understand Aspergian children and adults.




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KIRKUS REVIEWS : Asperger’s syndrome. Those who have this autism spectrum disorder are often seen as weird, because of their odd mannerisms and expressions and their difficulties in talking to other people. But Asperger’s may also confer rare talents, such as the ability to focus intently and to think rapidly and creatively, notes the author, who wrote this text at the urging of younger brother Augusten Burroughs (Running with Scissors, 2002, etc.). Read more…
A social misfit helped not at all by a battery of therapists, Robison admits that his behavior was decidedly disturbing, sometimes foolish and often dangerous. Asperger’s can lead to a life of isolation, but the author credits interested adults with drawing him out as a child and keeping him engaged with human beings. He dropped out of high school at age 15 and left home at 16, impelled by a troubled family situation (alcoholic father, mentally disturbed mother) into the working world. While people were a mystery to him, machines were not. He became a self-taught sound engineer for rock bands and later a designer of electronic toys. The discovery at age 40 that his strangeness had a name altered Robison’s view of himself, giving him a new confidence and enabling him to find more acceptable ways of coping with other people. He has learned to look them in the eye and even make small talk. His essays on choosing a wife and on naming people (he calls his spouse Unit Two, because she’s a middle sister) suggest that the prankster in him still lives, but they also demonstrate the oddness of the Asperger’s mind. Chapters on his son and on his late discovery of friendship are truly moving.

The view from inside this little-understood disorder offers both cold comfort and real hope, which makes it an exceptionally useful contribution to the literature.

PUBLISHER'S WEEKLY : Robison's thoughtful and thoroughly memorable account of living with Asperger's syndrome is assured of media attention (and sales) due in part to his brother Augusten Burroughs's brief but fascinating description of Robison in Running with Scissors. But Robison's story is much more fully detailed in this moving memoir, beginning with his painful childhood, his abusive alcoholic father and his mentally disturbed mother. Read more…
Robison describes how from nursery school on he could not communicate effectively with others, something his brain "is not wired to do," since kids with Asperger's don't recognize "common social cues" and "body language or facial expressions." Failing in junior high, Robison was encouraged by some audiovisual teachers to fix their broken equipment, and he discovered a more comfortable world of machines and circuits, "of muted colors, soft light, and mechanical perfection." This led to jobs (and many hilarious events) in worlds where strange behavior is seen as normal: developing intricate rocket-shooting guitars for the rock band Kiss and computerized toys for the Milton Bradley company. Finally, at age 40, while Robison was running a successful business repairing high-end cars, a therapist correctly diagnosed him as having Asperger's. In the end, Robison succeeds in his goal of "helping those who are struggling to grow up or live with Asperger's" to see how it "is not a disease" but "a way of being" that needs no cure except understanding and encouragement from others.


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